Carter Kalchik

Tongue in Cheek

Carter

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As I continue to plumb the depths of the MM romance genre, my tastes and favorites change. Even though I've been reading MM romance fairly consistently for the past few years, I also feel like I've only cracked the surface. Over the next year (and hopefully for many more after), I know I'm going embrace many more books as my favorites. But for today, here's my top ten.

The Prospects by K.T. Hoffman

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Minor league second chance baseball romance with major league ambitions. Gene (a transguy) and Luis are two of my favorites. I also adore what Hoffman did with the announcers as well -- a great way to communicate baseball!

Unwritten Rules by K.D. Casey

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Another second chance baseball romance? Yes, because they're great. We get deep inside the head of our male main character, Zach, and it's kind of a sad and uncomfortable place. But maybe he can overcome his issues and find a way to be with sexy sexy Eugenio...?

Mistletoe & Mishigas by M.A. Wardell

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Big Boy and Small Man! One of my earliest MM romances and also a favorite. M.A. Wardell's entire Teacher's in Love series is great, but these guys had my heart.

Muscle Cub by Slade James

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An over-40 writer needs to "get his groove" back and heads to the local clothing-optional men's camp. Surprisingly deep (in all the ways you can imagine).

Sapphire Spring by C. Travis Rice

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I'm a big fan of all of C. Travis Rice's Sapphire Cove books, but Spring is definitely my favorite. Rice starts one of the characters so rock bottom, you'll find it hard to believe he'll dig himself back up and earn his happily ever after. But he will.

Meet Me in the Sky by Jeffrey K. Davenport

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A charming and delightful and soulful read that is criminally under the radar.

Tough Guy by Rachel Reid

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Look, everyone loves Shane & Ilya. And objectively, Role Model is the best Game Changers book. But Tough Guy is and will always be my favorite. I love Ryan so much, I just wanna hug him. And other stuff.

Slippery Creatures by K.J. Charles

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I need way more historical MM romance in my life. This is the first in a trilogy (HEA earned by the end of book 3) that is equal parts historical, MM romance, and thriller. A potent combo wielded expertly by Charles. She's so good.

Red, White & Royal Blue by Casey McQuiston

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I think RWRB was my... third MM romance? And I struck out pretty hard on the first two. I don't know that I even would have continued in the genre if this hadn't been my third. It lives up to the hype.

The Darkness Outside Us by Eliot Schrefer

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A YA MM romance that will bend your brain as much as it touches your heart. I am deeply ashamed that I haven't read the sequel yet.

My Favorite MM Romances (So Far)


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About a year ago, I started this Bindery page. I had two goals:

  1. Expand the depth of the community I've found, and

  2. Expand the reach of the community enough to maybe be able to publish a book together through Bindery (what they call becoming an "imprint").

So, one year in: how did it go?

I would say a smashing success for goal number one and a total failure on goal number two. But, as my baseball romance friends would tell me, batting .500 is actually astounding!

The deepening of the community has happened in many ways, big and small. The most obvious was creating the Tongue in Cheek Discord. I never would have thought to do something like that before Bindery and that has ended up becoming one of my favorite places on the internet. My community of close friends on the queer bookish internet has grown. And based on the depth of trust, I've felt comfortable tackling more sensitive and complicated subjects, like with my recent video essay about the use of the F slur in M/M romance.

The community has also expanded, but not enough to become a Bindery imprint. And that's okay. I like the tight knit nature of the community and I wouldn't trade the depth for the breadth. I'm also very hopeful that some M/M and queer romance creators will make it big enough on Bindery to become an imprint and be able to publish queer romance through them. I will enthusiastically support them and their authors and I hope you will too.

Given where we are, I feel like it's best to call this year on Bindery a successful experiment, but one that has ended. Over the next year and a half, I do have plans to produce more in depth looks at popular M/M romance books (if you'd like to get a jump on the next series, I'd dust off your Alexis Hall bookshelf...), take a look at Unrivaled by Rachel Reid (as well as Season Two of Heated Rivalry), and then I might find it necessary to check out some darker M/M romances...

But, I plan to do that on my YouTube channel, with conversations happening on Instagram, TikTok and the Discord.

However, it is nice to have a "home base" for my work online. A newsletter to let people know what's going on is also nice. And it would be particularly nice to go back through some old series (like my "Butt Stuff in Books" TikTok playlist) and organize them, perhaps even post cleaned up transcripts. While that could go on Bindery, I think it makes more sense to move that all to a website just for me.

And that's exactly what I've done at: carterkalchik.com

If you're receiving this email from Bindery, then you're already signed up for the newsletter at my site to get monthly-ish emails from me -- nothing for you to do. If you'd rather not follow along, the unsubscribe link at the bottom of any email from the new site works instantly, no hard feelings. I'll also be slowly fleshing out things like pages for my videos with transcripts, updates to old projects, et cetera. I hope you'll follow along there -- it's free and hopefully you'd find it useful.

Thank you so much to everyone who followed along here and pushed me to take my little gay romance thoughts a bit more seriously. While this is a goodbye for Bindery, it's really more of a hello to the next phase of my work.

All the best and my queerest love for you,

Carter

Goodbye to Bindery and hello to carterkalchik.com


Shrapnel: Ambient Homophobia and the F-Slur in MM Romance

CONTENT WARNING: The whole video is a discussion of the F-slur for queer men. There is one, un-bleeped instance of the word in the first minute. Please be kind to yourself and to others when watching and commenting on this video.


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Everyone Deserves a Romance: Teachers in Love Series (by M.A. Wardell)
Everyone Deserves a Romance: Teachers in Love Series (by M.A. Wardell)

00:00:00 Intro 00:06:55 TOTY Capsule 00:10:41 TOTY Deep Dive 00:32:18 M&M Capsule 00:37:38 M&M Deep Dive 01:00:31 N&OD Capsule 01:06:54 N&OD Deep Dive 01:25:34 HOTY 01:33:15 Final Thoughts


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At Least a Little Not Normal
At Least a Little Not Normal

Male Gays in the Female Gaze by Lucy Neville: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/281861233_Male_Gays_in_the_Female_Gaze_Women_who_watch_mm_pornography


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